Thursday, March 26, 2015

{mini} Devotional | Be a peacemaker

"Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God." Matthew 5:9

What is a peacemaker?? Some think that it is avoiding conflict -- even if the conflict is affecting everyone. Some think that it is "minding your own business," looking the other way, staying out of it.

The Biblical model, however, is just the opposite.
"If another believer sins against you, go privately and point out the offense. If the other person listens and confesses it, you have won that person back." Matthew 18:15

Want to be a peacemaker? You may need to go up to someone and say, "We need to talk!" Do so in private, in love and in wisdom.

Stop avoiding. It's not getting better! It's not getting you anywhere and it's definitely not creating PEACE.

 Inspired by the relationship doctor, Dr. Linda Mintle and her book, "We need to Talk."  

You can listen to Dr. Linda Mintle on the Janet Parshall Radio show here: Moody Radio.

What kind of conflict style do you tend to sway toward? Take the assessment here:

This was my score: 


Reactors bring passion and intensity to conflict, but they can overwhelm those who are not as comfortable with the expression of emotions. To help grow your relationships, keep your emotions in check. It is important for you to be heard, but to also listen and not overwhelm those afraid to bring up issues.


Negotiators want to work through conflict and are confident that when people stay calm and rational, differences can be worked out. Your challenge is to realize that not everyone approaches conflict the same way you do. To help grow your relationships, allow for emotional expression and also encourage those who are reluctant to talk to bring up issues with you.


As someone who doesn’t like conflict, your greatest challenge is to push yourself to address issues in your relationships even though it may be uncomfortable. Avoidance may work to decrease stress in the short term, but doesn’t grow intimacy or friendship in the long run. To help grow your relationships, push through your discomfort and begin to address issues.

This is great insight on how I can improve my conflict resolution style. What did your score look like? We are on our ways to becoming peacemakers!

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